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Friends, Filters and Internet Bullying.
You know livejournal has the little eye icon to indicate private posts and the lock icon to show friends-locked posts? They ought to have a red lock icon to show filtered posts, maybe with a list of the other users that can see it.
[Poll #861005]
I filter a lot, but when I do it, it's to control who reads what. I filter for entries that I describe as 'emo' and when I say 'emo', I mean that I'm ashamed of being unhappy and feel like I'm whining to complain, no matter how real my problems might be. I filter for things that only girls would understand or need to know. I filter for RP talk. I filter for people who need a specific message and I can't contact any other way.
I don't filter to hurt people. I don't believe in filtering a post that badmouths someone because you know it'll get passed on to the person that's being talked about, and I don't believe in violating someone's privacy by taking something they told me in confidence and posting about in a journal entry that they can't see. I don't believe in filtering entries about person B to person D who hates person B. I think that's cowardly.
I don't think that el-jay should be used like that; I don't think that trust should be broken like that.
I think that doing something like that is bullying.
I think that hurting someone, just to get attention for yourself, is bullying. I think that breaking trust just to make sure people are paying attention to you, then posting about your own life as if your problems excuse treating someone like that, is incredibly low.
Because you know what? Everyone suffers. Most people don't take out their problems on other people by belitting what other people go through, or by hurting them to draw attention to themselves. Being unhappy doesn't give you the right to passive-aggressively dramawhore, or to betray someone like that. Me, personally, I curl up and withdraw from people when I'm unhappy. I don't break trusts. I don't pass on secrets. I don't hurt someone just to make people notice and pity me.
I just think it's flat-out bullying when people do something like that, and it appalls me.
I have absolutely no sympathy for bullies.
But I do like boys kissing.
[Poll #861005]
I filter a lot, but when I do it, it's to control who reads what. I filter for entries that I describe as 'emo' and when I say 'emo', I mean that I'm ashamed of being unhappy and feel like I'm whining to complain, no matter how real my problems might be. I filter for things that only girls would understand or need to know. I filter for RP talk. I filter for people who need a specific message and I can't contact any other way.
I don't filter to hurt people. I don't believe in filtering a post that badmouths someone because you know it'll get passed on to the person that's being talked about, and I don't believe in violating someone's privacy by taking something they told me in confidence and posting about in a journal entry that they can't see. I don't believe in filtering entries about person B to person D who hates person B. I think that's cowardly.
I don't think that el-jay should be used like that; I don't think that trust should be broken like that.
I think that doing something like that is bullying.
I think that hurting someone, just to get attention for yourself, is bullying. I think that breaking trust just to make sure people are paying attention to you, then posting about your own life as if your problems excuse treating someone like that, is incredibly low.
Because you know what? Everyone suffers. Most people don't take out their problems on other people by belitting what other people go through, or by hurting them to draw attention to themselves. Being unhappy doesn't give you the right to passive-aggressively dramawhore, or to betray someone like that. Me, personally, I curl up and withdraw from people when I'm unhappy. I don't break trusts. I don't pass on secrets. I don't hurt someone just to make people notice and pity me.
I just think it's flat-out bullying when people do something like that, and it appalls me.
I have absolutely no sympathy for bullies.
But I do like boys kissing.
