You can love the spirit of your country and hope that the good people you know there will one day become the majority. Fooling yourself into thinking that everyone is of a particular nature has helped me through allot of things. Though I find it hard to believe people can be this way, I've come to accept that it's just another form of evil. If you ever go back to Sri Lanka again and I'm with you, I'll make sure you feel safe.
I can see why you'd feel this way about your country and I'm sorry. You're come out very strong though, I honestly think you can move mountains if you put your mind to it. Wanting this to change is a matter of having enough people, influence, and communication.
A few years ago back at that school without identity, I remember asking you what you'd do if you became president/dictator of Sri Lanka. The strength of what you said was much reverse all of the above and improve things for the better. It was really moving though and it is sitting in my "most influential things said" in my memory. I really feel sorry for your Aunt though, what bastards! She must feel so insecure about going out even. No-one should have to feel like that outside their own house, it's just wrong.
The nice thing to know is that you're not going to get that where you are now. Some people stare, but it just doesn't happen so much. It's a double standard though that exists even in western culture as well, that Women are supposed to be conservative creatures. All this purity stuff and families holding their daughters back at home really didn't hit me really till I had a big chat about it with Mum at about 16. Most of my views really seem to reflect hers for now, and I really can't imagine what that must be like. If I ever have a daughter, there is no way I'd ever make her feel like she had to defend herself against the world. We got to know allot of families from all over the place when we were in the middle east too, most places showing more than your eyes or face is sinful. Mum had people calling up and offering her sex openly. We were almost rammed off the road because she was a woman (god forbid) driving a car. The only reason they stopped was because there were 2 blond haired, blue eyed boys in the fucking back seat. To me though, women are my teachers, professors, friends, peers, colleagues, they're people. I hear stories like this and I feel sick.
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I can see why you'd feel this way about your country and I'm sorry. You're come out very strong though, I honestly think you can move mountains if you put your mind to it. Wanting this to change is a matter of having enough people, influence, and communication.
A few years ago back at that school without identity, I remember asking you what you'd do if you became president/dictator of Sri Lanka. The strength of what you said was much reverse all of the above and improve things for the better. It was really moving though and it is sitting in my "most influential things said" in my memory. I really feel sorry for your Aunt though, what bastards! She must feel so insecure about going out even. No-one should have to feel like that outside their own house, it's just wrong.
The nice thing to know is that you're not going to get that where you are now. Some people stare, but it just doesn't happen so much. It's a double standard though that exists even in western culture as well, that Women are supposed to be conservative creatures. All this purity stuff and families holding their daughters back at home really didn't hit me really till I had a big chat about it with Mum at about 16. Most of my views really seem to reflect hers for now, and I really can't imagine what that must be like. If I ever have a daughter, there is no way I'd ever make her feel like she had to defend herself against the world. We got to know allot of families from all over the place when we were in the middle east too, most places showing more than your eyes or face is sinful. Mum had people calling up and offering her sex openly. We were almost rammed off the road because she was a woman (god forbid) driving a car. The only reason they stopped was because there were 2 blond haired, blue eyed boys in the fucking back seat. To me though, women are my teachers, professors, friends, peers, colleagues, they're people. I hear stories like this and I feel sick.
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