Hah. Yeah, exactly. My mother's friends kept asking her about me, and if I'm going out with anyone, etc, etc, because they trust her to have raised me right even though I got brought up in a Western environment.
As for the boys being treated better, WORD! My aunts are actually nice to me concerning food because they know that I'm a picky eater and I'm a guest anyway, but the basic attitude is that if something needs to be done, get the girl cousins to do it. And the guys are allowed to get married to girls that they pick out but the girls just get married to whomever their parents choose.
I mean, the last wedding I attended, I was the bridesmaid to a girl who had only met her groom a month before and during that month could only see him when chaperoned. And that was supposedly liberal on her parents part because she could have theoretically turned him down!
Not to mention that because some guy had been dancing with me at the wedding reception (okay, a lot had) and then one asked for my e-mail address, my uncle got all concerned because apparently the guy was a pilot and might end up flying over to America one day. Oh noes. I am so terrified of a guy that's all the way over in ASIA.
And at least you had a curfew. My parents didn't want me going out in the night at all, if they could help it. And once, when I was in London with my mother, she was inside drinking with her friends and I hated the music and alcohol and company and said that I just wanted to go outside to take a walk and she was all, "No, it's Leicester Square, you could get kidnapped or molested!" And for fuck's sake, I've already had people try to molest me and been able to get rid of them, and it was LONDON and only about eight in the night, and if I can survive America on my own, you'd think that I could manage London.
Personally, I think she was just pissy that I didn't like either of the guys she was trying to set me up with. Boo hoo.
Seriously, screw 'When are you going to find a man and get married and have some children?'. In my life, it's 'I know this nice young man you can marry and have children with'.
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As for the boys being treated better, WORD! My aunts are actually nice to me concerning food because they know that I'm a picky eater and I'm a guest anyway, but the basic attitude is that if something needs to be done, get the girl cousins to do it. And the guys are allowed to get married to girls that they pick out but the girls just get married to whomever their parents choose.
I mean, the last wedding I attended, I was the bridesmaid to a girl who had only met her groom a month before and during that month could only see him when chaperoned. And that was supposedly liberal on her parents part because she could have theoretically turned him down!
Not to mention that because some guy had been dancing with me at the wedding reception (okay, a lot had) and then one asked for my e-mail address, my uncle got all concerned because apparently the guy was a pilot and might end up flying over to America one day. Oh noes. I am so terrified of a guy that's all the way over in ASIA.
And at least you had a curfew. My parents didn't want me going out in the night at all, if they could help it. And once, when I was in London with my mother, she was inside drinking with her friends and I hated the music and alcohol and company and said that I just wanted to go outside to take a walk and she was all, "No, it's Leicester Square, you could get kidnapped or molested!" And for fuck's sake, I've already had people try to molest me and been able to get rid of them, and it was LONDON and only about eight in the night, and if I can survive America on my own, you'd think that I could manage London.
Personally, I think she was just pissy that I didn't like either of the guys she was trying to set me up with. Boo hoo.
Seriously, screw 'When are you going to find a man and get married and have some children?'. In my life, it's 'I know this nice young man you can marry and have children with'.
ARGH.