ext_12350 ([identity profile] fickle-goddess.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] fickle 2008-04-24 04:47 am (UTC)

I don't mind it in the least. Truthfully, I think that might be the best response possible since that's exactly what I wanted this post to do: empower women to retain control of their bodies and remember that the word 'no' exists and is an option, no matter how awkward it might make things.

I know America definitely has its own problems with the idea of women's bodies being available and it somehow being the women's fault for being repressed/leading men on/whatever if they don't go along with it. But those are problems. They're false ideas.

Try saying no next time. Clearly state exactly how much you dislike it, and how he shouldn't be continuing to do it after you've made it clear that you don't like it through your body language. And if he's a good friend, or even just a good human being, he'll stop it and back off.

Sometimes, a strong, clear 'no' is one of those things that gets through when trying to be polite doesn't. Being direct, at least, means he can't fool himself into thinking that you don't really mind or you're not really protesting as much as you would if you meant it.

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