You're "knee-jerk reaction" is what I predicted. *beams* I find the fight coming on both sides of the fence - one wants to stay the same, one wants to fight it. Then you see those, who I would put you into, that is in the middle. "Then can be [what/who they are] as long as they don't try to" push it on you. Which is *thumbs up* to me xD <3! *Smiling at that*
Ah yes! Good point about the thing you saw in your history textbooks. In fact, something similar was brought up on *gasp* MTV not too long ago. Even so much as those that speak properly vs those that use slang all the time and what's "real" and what's "fake/just being used to impress" and such things. I don't know if I'm "wrong" for feeling this way, but it's sad that it is often viewed in deal of ones race, rather than the individual themselves as an individual. (Of course, not to say that one can't be proud of who/what they are. Obviously.)
I hope your cousin is doing it because they want to and are happy.
Oh yes! That wedding! I was FUMING at that. Argh! I agree that people should know each other. I wish it wouldn't make you look like a jerk in her/their eyes, though. It... sucks. A fine line, I suppose.
"Lock in with the image of Asian women as submissive" - is that the main reason behind arranged marriages? So that the woman is the one who appears to be (or is) submitting? I've heard that most of the time the male does have a choice - or a major "part" in the choice - or at least has some say where as the woman usually has none (or very little) at all. I don't know how accurate it is for all those that have arranged marriages, though. Or does this also fall into 'obedient children' as well - to also follow a stereotype of (in this case) "Asian parents have obedient children"? I bring this up because recently a friend had brought up "Strict Asian Parents".
I mean, really, who has the right to say how another person should live? Excellent point/question to bring up. Touchy, touchy. (Not you, but that line). Ouch. Though, I think that if it's something that's hurting someone, then something should be said, of course. But again, what's determining/who's determining such things? Fine line - grey areas? Good point, hard question. Perhaps the safest way is advising or.. suggesting if the chance is there, but I guess "telling" isn't exactly fair either.
I just don't want other people assuming that I am like her because we come from the same section of the continent, more or less.
*nods* Right-oh. Well said. I think it's hard in a lot of ways for people to do that, as it's a way for people to associate people with others - as in where they're from and understanding that much. Of course, that also goes to show that those same people may forget that just because you may be FROM that area does not mean you are exactly like that. So-true. Though, for me, my associations with people tend to be more of what is a definite association or something xD LIke: You = RP, Psychoshipping, Ryuuji, Voltaire, Dresden Dolls -- [etc on the list]. But, yes, well said. You answered that more or less how I thought you would with throwing in some things for better understanding. Thank you.
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Ah yes! Good point about the thing you saw in your history textbooks. In fact, something similar was brought up on *gasp* MTV not too long ago. Even so much as those that speak properly vs those that use slang all the time and what's "real" and what's "fake/just being used to impress" and such things. I don't know if I'm "wrong" for feeling this way, but it's sad that it is often viewed in deal of ones race, rather than the individual themselves as an individual. (Of course, not to say that one can't be proud of who/what they are. Obviously.)
I hope your cousin is doing it because they want to and are happy.
Oh yes! That wedding! I was FUMING at that. Argh! I agree that people should know each other. I wish it wouldn't make you look like a jerk in her/their eyes, though. It... sucks. A fine line, I suppose.
"Lock in with the image of Asian women as submissive" - is that the main reason behind arranged marriages? So that the woman is the one who appears to be (or is) submitting? I've heard that most of the time the male does have a choice - or a major "part" in the choice - or at least has some say where as the woman usually has none (or very little) at all. I don't know how accurate it is for all those that have arranged marriages, though. Or does this also fall into 'obedient children' as well - to also follow a stereotype of (in this case) "Asian parents have obedient children"? I bring this up because recently a friend had brought up "Strict Asian Parents".
I mean, really, who has the right to say how another person should live? Excellent point/question to bring up. Touchy, touchy. (Not you, but that line). Ouch. Though, I think that if it's something that's hurting someone, then something should be said, of course. But again, what's determining/who's determining such things? Fine line - grey areas? Good point, hard question. Perhaps the safest way is advising or.. suggesting if the chance is there, but I guess "telling" isn't exactly fair either.
I just don't want other people assuming that I am like her because we come from the same section of the continent, more or less.
*nods* Right-oh. Well said. I think it's hard in a lot of ways for people to do that, as it's a way for people to associate people with others - as in where they're from and understanding that much. Of course, that also goes to show that those same people may forget that just because you may be FROM that area does not mean you are exactly like that. So-true. Though, for me, my associations with people tend to be more of what is a definite association or something xD LIke: You = RP, Psychoshipping, Ryuuji, Voltaire, Dresden Dolls -- [etc on the list]. But, yes, well said. You answered that more or less how I thought you would with throwing in some things for better understanding. Thank you.