I think you bring up lots of subtle stuff here. It's making me think about when cultural mores become stereotypes and how. Like differences in levels of confrontationalism among cultures and genders (which there are, sometimes--the whole "women must argue rationally and without emotion otherwise they're just too emotional" thing comes to mind)...how do I, as a white person, make a space for cultural conventions about expressing anger? How do I keep from stereotyping? How do I make room for different ways of expressing feelings? I'm not bringing this up for you to give me all the answers, just thinking aloud. Lots of thought-provoking stuff. I appreciate that.

Also, the Wellesley thing is AWESOME. I lol'ed at the "by the way, our men have penises. big ones too." I don't understand where the asexual Asian man thing came from. The Asian men I know are men, just like other men. Not eunuchs. Also, dude, lots of them are smokin' hot.

Anyway, thanks for this post. It was a great read on a lot of different levels.