fickle: (asian pride)
Fickle ([personal profile] fickle) wrote2009-01-16 03:29 pm

Public Service Announcement: STOP SAYING NAMASTE.

Today, I had yet another guy try to pick me up with the opening salvo of "Namaste".

The fact that we were in a crowded shopping mall is probably what saved him from being viciously savaged by an angry Sri Lankan girl who is absolutely sick of having people greet her with that.

If you see a white person, any white person, are you going to assume they're German and start a conversation with "Guten Tag"? Or French and say "Bonjour!" to them? No. So why see nothing except my skin color and think that I'll appreciate 'Namaste' as being your token proof of 'knowing my culture'?

Namaste is a Sanskrit term, used most commonly by Hindus and Nepalese for as a greeting. Sanskrit is a root language, like Latin.

How many of you go around greeting all white people with a Latin phrase or word?

India's huge. India has a lot more than just Hindus in it. So even if someone is from India, there's no reason to assume that 'Namaste' is the right greeting to use -- Muslims, for example, have their own greeting, which goes along the lines of 'salaam alaykum'.

I am Sri Lankan. Sri Lanka is an entirely different country to India, and we have very few Hindus. The majority of the country is Buddhist, and I have never ever heard anyone in Sri Lanka use 'Namaste'. Sri Lankans say "Ayubowan" (pronounced 'eye-oh-bo-wung', with wung rhyming with lung)

Cultural appropriation is one of those complicated things I haven't sorted out my feelings about, but I know exactly what I feel when people try to apply other people's culture to me, assuming based off nothing more than my looks that I am belong with that group.

So here's something that I can't believe I have to state explicitly: Not all brown-skinned people are Indian Hindus or from Nepal. Though I doubt that people associate 'namaste' with Nepal. However, if you're greeting them with Namaste, you're implying you believe they belong to that particular social caste/class and will therefore understand it, and give you brownie points for having tried to speak their language.

Here's a quick geography lesson for you. Asia is a huge continent. Bangladesh, Pakistan, Nepal, India and Sri Lanka all fall under what I'm talking about when I say South Asian. East Asian, for me, is usually China, Taiwan, Japan, Tibet, North Korea and South Korea. And South East Asian is Thailand, the Philippines, Malaysia, Singapore. Russia's a whole different story. That's a lot of countries already and I know I'm missing some.

Unless you actually know where someone is from, don't assume they're from whichever country is most in the news. Playing the odds is a great way to offend people and quite frankly, it's unnecessary. A friend of mine said: "It's like greeting everyone you've been told isn't a black American with 'What's up mon' as if all other Blacks are automatically Jamaican. Or automatically African."

Next time you see an East Asian or South East Asian person and want to spew "kawaii desu arigato!!!!" at them, or think you've spotted an Indian whom you can show off to with "Namaste!", don't. Just don't.

Go start up a movement to promote Klingon being taught in public schools instead. Or Vulcan. Or Bajoran. Or Romulan. Whatever floats your boat.

Just please, please, PLEASE stop it with the cultural misappropriation.

~Fickle, who is still brown but still not Indian.

[identity profile] fickle-goddess.livejournal.com 2009-01-25 08:30 pm (UTC)(link)
I tend to think that those are pretentious rather than insulting, because it's so obvious that I'm not French or Italian. However, real French or Italian people are VERY unlikely to go around greeting people in their own language unless they know for sure that the other person speaks that language and is comfortable doing so. For example, I know four languages fluently but I usually stick to English all the way, just because going "Bonjour!" at someone reeks of "let me show off my pathetic, limited vocabulary in an attempt to impress you!".

[identity profile] xindanobodie.livejournal.com 2009-01-25 11:12 pm (UTC)(link)
Gotcha. Sorry to hear that it can come off that way to those thst speak it to you. I apologize, also, if I ever did use non-English words around you. And, thank you for informing me.

(re-comment, because I had just woke up. Also, was worried that by my giving a short reply, I may have come off as rude and I wanted to apologize for that as well - in case that I was.)

[identity profile] fickle-goddess.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 10:18 pm (UTC)(link)
Dude, you don't need to apologize. I don't get offended by random European languages, since that's not a case of racial confusion but just people being show-offs. XD

*hugs* S'okay, Danikins. ♥ Thanks for making me think.

[identity profile] xindanobodie.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:26 am (UTC)(link)
^^;; Well I'm glad to hear I didn't have a reason to, at the very least! ^_^

*snugs* Yay. <3 you Ficklekins.