No problem xD I talk too much >.>;; And to spare you, I've edited my comment numerous times to shorten it - believe it or not.
The icon had me going all sparkly-eyed (mostly) on it. The "you're hurting me" is just ♥ People need to remember how HURTFUL it is, indeed. And also the "stop it". And, I don't think it ever killed anyone to apologize when they've done something hurtful - that should be tagged in, too. "An apology wouldn't hurt", but maybe that'd be pushing it?
For me, if I make a racist comment? I would like it to be pointed out so I can apologize big time and then clarify myself. To me, racism is racism - regardless of to whom.
"Too busy arguing" - I would think fixing the problem would be the best solution - by apologizing for it and explaining what was meant. Without ignoring what had been done and learn from it...
*reads links before going on* On the third point, "Don’t make it about you. " has me wonder. If someone accuses someone else of being racist - don't they want to know what was really meant? Or do most people only want an apology? And I don't mean a lengthy explanation - but just a simple, "I meant [insert explanation of whatever is normal for that person], I'm sorry I offended you." Or do they just want, "I'm sorry I offended you" and nothing else. Or is it okay to ask how it was racist - so long as it doesn't come off as - like you said "BUT I'M NOT RACIST LA LA LA". Which comes off as highly annoying, to me and yeah... o_O! Now the second link! xD Nice link. Now, final link. Interesting, I dare say.
"instead of letting you talk about the problem" I see that in a lot of things in and outside of racism. Though, most of the time I see it in a way to try to understand the other person - provided that it's an actual conversation and not one-sided -- UNLESS the person who brought it up wanted it to be simply their opinion/feelings/problem and not to have it... mmm... what's the word... countered with comparisons? Which is why I was reluctant to comment on my opinion on this - I didn't want you (or anyone) to take it in such a way - even if I am agreeing with a lot of what you say.
I'm glad you're keeping your posts and still making them. Touchy subject as it is. I do hope I didn't come across as one that didn't care to hear it, because that's not true and if it is, I sincerely apologize for that.
Please don't think that this is like a war or anything. Your thoughts on it? No! No no. Is it in other places I've seen? It comes off as such - with backup support for that a lot of the time, yes. Which, to me is sad - especially with your "It's not about taking sides", because I agree with that statement... Which is why I think some things should be handled as such. -shrugs- Racism is racism as far as I'm concerned.
Y'know, I THINK that's why - the 'colored restrooms' and such. I think that's why it sounds so ... odd. That could be it. Must be it.
Ahhh. I see. *nods* Thanks for that clear up (on th Asian Anger topic)
I remember learning that. I remember how I felt each time I learned of anything that I felt was "unfair" (such as what you stated) and seeing that even if that issue was "solved" (or being worked on) there was still... more. Still is.
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The icon had me going all sparkly-eyed (mostly) on it. The "you're hurting me" is just ♥ People need to remember how HURTFUL it is, indeed. And also the "stop it". And, I don't think it ever killed anyone to apologize when they've done something hurtful - that should be tagged in, too. "An apology wouldn't hurt", but maybe that'd be pushing it?
For me, if I make a racist comment? I would like it to be pointed out so I can apologize big time and then clarify myself. To me, racism is racism - regardless of to whom.
"Too busy arguing" - I would think fixing the problem would be the best solution - by apologizing for it and explaining what was meant. Without ignoring what had been done and learn from it...
*reads links before going on* On the third point, "Don’t make it about you. " has me wonder. If someone accuses someone else of being racist - don't they want to know what was really meant? Or do most people only want an apology? And I don't mean a lengthy explanation - but just a simple, "I meant [insert explanation of whatever is normal for that person], I'm sorry I offended you." Or do they just want, "I'm sorry I offended you" and nothing else. Or is it okay to ask how it was racist - so long as it doesn't come off as - like you said "BUT I'M NOT RACIST LA LA LA". Which comes off as highly annoying, to me and yeah... o_O! Now the second link! xD Nice link. Now, final link. Interesting, I dare say.
"instead of letting you talk about the problem" I see that in a lot of things in and outside of racism. Though, most of the time I see it in a way to try to understand the other person - provided that it's an actual conversation and not one-sided -- UNLESS the person who brought it up wanted it to be simply their opinion/feelings/problem and not to have it... mmm... what's the word... countered with comparisons? Which is why I was reluctant to comment on my opinion on this - I didn't want you (or anyone) to take it in such a way - even if I am agreeing with a lot of what you say.
I'm glad you're keeping your posts and still making them. Touchy subject as it is. I do hope I didn't come across as one that didn't care to hear it, because that's not true and if it is, I sincerely apologize for that.
Please don't think that this is like a war or anything. Your thoughts on it? No! No no. Is it in other places I've seen? It comes off as such - with backup support for that a lot of the time, yes. Which, to me is sad - especially with your "It's not about taking sides", because I agree with that statement... Which is why I think some things should be handled as such. -shrugs- Racism is racism as far as I'm concerned.
Y'know, I THINK that's why - the 'colored restrooms' and such. I think that's why it sounds so ... odd. That could be it. Must be it.
Ahhh. I see. *nods* Thanks for that clear up (on th Asian Anger topic)
I remember learning that. I remember how I felt each time I learned of anything that I felt was "unfair" (such as what you stated) and seeing that even if that issue was "solved" (or being worked on) there was still... more. Still is.
Indeed, thank you *hugs*